This is/was the topic in the d.bt group I am attending. Because it was such a hot topic last week, the facilitators decided to extend it a week. Which is good, I guess, for me bc last week I did not go to the group. I could not bare the thought of going, let alone leaving the house.
The first page of the handout diagrams "why do i keep....."
Cutting, drinking, yelling, ect.
Goes on to say for every BEHAVIOR their equals a REWARD.
You work....you get paid.
You garden...you get flowers and veggies.
You have panic attack...you get attention n compassion.
You cut...you get physical/emotional relief.
And the list goes on and on.
For every temporary reward there is a long-term cost/danger.
I, for one, can understand and relate with this aspect.
I, don't fully agree, with the first part of this.
Sure, I have my outbursts and say things I regret. Sure, that brings with it, attention.
However, more and more....I AM the ONLY person that knows...
*I am having full blown panic attack
*I am in a really ROUGH patch.
I am struggling with the homework portion of this weeks assignment.
Naming a emotion/thought and listing the behavior...then the reward for that behavior and the how the behavior might bee repeated.
I am sure those around me may be able to figure this out. I, not so much.